Sick and Tired of Rejection they become Strippers

What drives a girl to become a stripper.
To become so lost and deprived of any true love but still willing to endure the hell involved.

What really makes a woman want to degrade herself by sharing(selling) her body with(to) the world.
To go to bed at night with tears rolling down her cheeks knowing it’s not worth it. But waking up in the morning continuing the vicious cycle.

REJECTION.

I look back now and see my little heart as a small girl. Rejection was written all over it.

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Not only was I rejected by the first man in my life. My dad. I was then later rejected by boys.
I was stinkin’ tired of rejection!
Tired of offering my heart over and over again. And in return receiving pain, lies, and simply being ignored.

Somewhere in my sick mind I knew I could lose rejection once and for all! Finally.
I knew I wanted to pack my bags and be done with my enemy ..rejection.
My bags contained all I needed to endure this new life I thought I wanted.
My “luggage” would be packed with…
Anger
Bitterness and Hatred
Lust
Rebellion
Greed

And only God knows what else.

My anger, bitterness, and hatred towards my father and men in general would be my fuel that would drive me indeed.

Well, it would’ve driven me but my little journey never began.
Because you see at the age of 16. That lonely girl found herself alone in a room, crying out. Yes. She had already packed her bags nice and full. But at the end all the pain. All the hurt. All the lies and anger would not be enough to hold her back from running to The Saviour!

Could there really be a Man that wouldn’t reject her?? She didn’t know but she had to take the chance.
She unpacked her heavy bags. And she cried. Because for once in her life she could finally just be herself and no longer fear rejection. It was as if He wiped away her tears and cradled her broken heart.

She waved bye to those demons and the devil himself that had been waiting outside the door for her. The path that had been paved just for her vanished. And a new one appeared almost instantly.

How can it be that the Creator of the universe cares for me.

I’m forgiven because You were forsaken
I’m accepted. You were condemned
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I’m alive and well- Your spirt is within me- because You died and You rose again.

You see I realize now that Jesus was rejected FOR US. For me.
I had been rejected countless times. But when I ran into His open arms that night He recieved me.

All that past rejection would’ve definitely caused me to become someone I really wouldn’t have wanted to be. To do things I wouldn’t have really wanted to do.
13 years later scary to think where I would be.

Girls,
It’s time.
Time to UNpack your bags. Let it go. And run into the arms of your Saviour.
I promise He will welcome you.
Of course He will. Remember He was rejected so you wouldn’t have to be.

Lots of Love,
SongsofIntimacy

From rejection to finally being accepted.

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Freedom to choose your man and be a lady while doing it

Yesterday was Independence Day in the beautiful U.S.A. Land of the free. Because of the BRAVE!

That means we have many many privileges and rights that many other countries do not.

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I am forever thankful that God allowed me to be born here.
I may not have had the best childhood but I did partake and enjoy of the many privileges of this great land.

BUT as I look around…it saddens me because I watch so many people especially women (because that is who I mostly write to and about here) who throw their freedom around like a wet dog.

What freedom am I talking about?
( (Clears throat ) )
The freedom to choose who they ALLOW to have them. To touch them. To kiss them. To hold their hand. To marry and live with. And yes to be intimate with!

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So if we have that privilege why do so many choose to sleep with dogs?
And my meaning of a “dog” would be: but not limited to:
A whoremonger-
a person who has dealings with prostitutes, *especially a sexually promiscuous man*.

Pretty much the opposite of a whore. So pretty much a man-whore.

Now I’m not here to judge anybody.
If that’s who you are and that’s what you willingly choose than of course that is on you. BUT I know there are girls/women out there that wholeheartedly DO NOT
want to choose that kind of man to share their hearts with much less their bodies!!

So guess what girls!?
YOU DON’T HAVE TO!!! You have the right, the privilege, the freedom to CHOOSE…
To say NO to that boy that wants to put his dirty paws all over you!

To say YES to respect, to virtue, to true love, to dating WITHOUT sex. You know (and this is a shocker) real dating. Such as going to dinner, talking over the phone, shopping together, laughing together WITHOUT SEX or being all over each other!
That still exists you know.

You have the freedom to save yourself till marriage!
You have the freedom to request that the man you choose to date open the car door for you. Buy you flowers, in other words “WOO you”

Back in the day, love relationships were easier because they were well defined. There was courtship instead of dating. Men wooed women. Now men and women hang out and hook up. Many people have sex thinking it’s the beginning of a relationship rather than having a relationship first and then expressing their love and commitment through sex.
– See more at: http://loveforsuccessfulwomen.com/2012/08/let-yourself-be-wooed/#sthash.W85rDmc4.dpuf

You get to choose whether or not you want to date or be courted. If you’re consistently let down and feel unfulfilled in your experiences with potential partners, try letting a man woo you instead of date you. (This could mean) letting him open doors for you, plan dates, pay for your meals (you can still offer), keep his word, give you flowers, etc. It means treating him with respect and trust – (And allow him to treat you likewise).
See more at: http://loveforsuccessfulwomen.com/2012/08/let-yourself-be-wooed/#sthash.W85rDmc4.dpuf

You can also check out this article I found here that could help with the wooing. 😉 Getting a man to woo you.

But believe me I didn’t grow up knowing that men were made to cherish us, truly love and care for us. Crazy but I didn’t know that!

And I believe so many girls in this pornified generation don’t really know that or believe that.
We have sex to become close when in reality sex is a privilege that God created for inside of marriage.
If he’s not even close to what you would want your son to become than why give him something so precious and worthy as your heart and body?
Don’t settle for way less than you deserve.

Some may ask… But why marriage? Why do I have to wait till marriage?
Well simply put did God create marriage or not?
Because if He did than He undoubtedly knows better. Right?

The time before marriage is the stage to realize if this is the man you want to share the rest of your life with. So once married you both can share and bask in the privilege of intimacy. With No fear. Or doubt.

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Come on use your freedom for what it’s worth!
You can leave the sex part as a privilege for your future husband to gain. Not something for him to have already possess.
And if when courting you come to find that he IS NOT what you would want your son to be or absolutely NOT someone you would love for your daughter to one day marry than you will be able to cut him off faster and easier if there was no sexual intimacy going on.

Read this book and you’ll understand.: “HOOKED”.
You can find it here!

So women use your independence, YOUR FREEDOM to let go of all those guys that only want to use you, and disrespect you. You do have the power.
A real man is wired to rise up to the level he needs to and has to to survive. But why should they if they don’t have to or need to.
They can get free sex, they can shack up with any girl and receive wife benefits.
They can watch pornography anytime and almost everywhere for easy and fast but not truly satisfying “quickies”.

Yes, there’s a lot of things we women cannot help when it comes to making men rise up.
BUT there is a lot we CAN DO.

You check out a few of these other posts from me and see if in there you can search out something you can contribute.
A beautiful woman and a pigs snout.

Oh baby give me some chivalry.

QUOTES THAT MIGHT LEAVE YOU SPEECHLESS.

My prayer is that women would use the power and freedom they have to (without words) call men (with their actions) to rise up and become knights with shining armor.

And for all the women out there that maybe have given up on love.
After being hurt over and over again. Indulge and immerse your soul in The Man that first created your heart. There and only then will you know what to expect from a real man.

And for all the men out there that have risen up to the challenge of becoming a gentleman by realizing that women half dressed are really someone’s daughters. By choosing to respect women even if they choose to not respect themselves. By protecting their virtue.

And don’t forget to thank God everyday for this wonderful privilege we call freedom.

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Thankful for REAL men…

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If you are listed below….Let me just say THANK YOU!! I have respect/admiration
for you.

I am thankful for:

The men who choose to nurture, love, care for, “stick around”, and commit to raising their children.

The men who have decided to no longer “shack up”. You’d rather put your “needs” and feelings aside to protect her virtue.

The men who choose to respect, love, adore, cherish, and actually work at winning her heart instead of just using her or playing her.
~The men who wholeheartedly and sincerly choose to “put a ring on it” before SEX!

The men who put God first.Who center their lives around Him and wanting to please Him not just theirselves.

The men who have chosen to completely
give up watching and looking at pornography! Knowing the destruction and pain it causes…

The men that rebel against the kind of guy the world tells them that they should be. (A “player”, a cheater(adulterer), liar, abuser, an exploiter of women and girls!).

The men who love their wives AND daughters!
~The daddies who treat their daughters the way they would want another man to treat them.
~The daddies that protect, fight for, and pray for their daughters.
~The daddies that live by example. Showing their daughters what a REAL man looks like, behaves, and talks like.

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I know my list could go on….and on….

May God continue to truly BLESS all the REAL men out there!!! We are thankful for you.
And I gotta say that includes the love of my life…my husband. Thank you baby for bein’ a REAL man.

Happy Thanksgiving…
What are you thankful for this season?

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They just want to be pretty

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I seen her …
Okay, yes I admit .. I kinda watched her.
And my heart saddened.
Because it was almost like she had a huge sign attached to her forehead that read:
“I just want to be pretty”.
“I just want to be called “beautiful”,
“Pretty”.

The part that saddened me was:
She was trying too hard.
And the really really sad part was:
She didn’t even know it.

The woman I seen this particular day was an older aged woman maybe somewhere in her fourties. Maybe a mother, maybe even a grandmother.. And as she sat there in her really short, tight and revealing dress, it was like I could almost hear a cry or maybe it was just the look on her face? But she wanted, No,she NEEDED to feel pretty.
Which isn’t a “baaaad” thing entirely.

Because most women want and need to feel beautiful.
And when we don’t … it can truly “mess” with us. Sadly.
Every woman deeply and sincerely longs to be:
Beautiful ! And Wanted!
And we absolutely NEED:
Attention!

That’s why I believe one reason why girls/woman become strippers, porn stars etc because it is guaranteed attention!

When I was 15…. my “dream job” was to become a stripper.
Why???!!! What was I thinking?!
Was I stupid or something?! Seriously?
No, I was just a young girl that wanted..No, that needed attention.
Yes, I guess I believed attention -equaled- love.
What a lie.

It breaks my heart that girls try so hard to be noticed. But like I said earlier the really sad part is.. they don’t even know it.
Society makes me sick the way it poisons woman. But I also know the problem isn’t all society’s fault! A lot of the problem is also daughters with no daddies!
No daddy to tell her she’s beautiful and worth so much more than showing skin just to prove that she is pretty.
No daddy to show her how a REAL man should treat and care for her!
No daddy to remind her that The God who created her knew what He was doing that day when He skillfully and wonderfully crafted her. And that she truly is His masterpiece.

So Now when I see a girl young or old with very little clothes on, or tight revealing clothes.. or simply just trying too hard to be noticed.. (wherever it may be).
I also happen to see that little invisible “sign”on her forehead that reads:

“I just want to be pretty”.

And I don’t look with judgemental eyes, or with an “holier than thou” attitude…NOT AT ALL! I watch with compassion, with sympathy, and yes sadness.

Because
I know now….. that once was me.

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Related articles:
“Oh baby give me some Chivalry”…

Daughters w/ no Daddies

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Say What?! (Quotes that might leave you speechless) *Pt.2*

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“Laying in his bed, pretending he’s your husband. Thinking a sex bond will keep you together. Congratulations you’re a pretend wife”.

“Don’t have sex with a woman you wouldn’t want your son to marry.”
(Live by example…and show your son a Real Man keeps it “put away”till his wedding night.)

“A woman who disdains womanhood trains men to be scum & makes it harder for the good girls to get a guy.”

“You Can’t FORCE a person to show you RESPECT, But you can REFUSE to be DISRESPECTED”.

“Always hold the door open for a lady. Not because she’s a lady, But because you’re a gentleman”.

“Don’t fall in love with someone who says the right things, fall in love with someone who does the right things”.

“Someone who is worthy of your love will never put you in a situation where you feel you must sacrifice your dignity, your integrity, or your self-worth to be with them”.

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“Be a woman of self-respect. Find a man who will swim through shark-infested waters to bring you a lemonade, not just a hump partner“!

“If you consider yourself a prize that a guy would be lucky(blessed) to have, you won’t choose or tolerate bad men.”

Men don’t value women they don’t have to work hard for”!

If you’re a side chick & you get with that man just remember that side chick position is now open again.

“When a guy wants to shack up, he is blatantly expressing his lack of desire to cherish & honor. He wants one foot out the door.”

If you wonder where all the gentlemen are, they left when all the ladies did.”

“Men don’t respect things they don’t have to earn.”

Don’t date a guy who can’t provide & protect. There’s no point because he won’t be a man.”

“Girls give sex to get love. Boys pretend love to get sex”.

“Ladies, You were created for one man. Don’t give out test drives. No ring? No keys.”

Find Someone Who wants to make you a wife….. And not a baby momma.

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Remember Ladies…. you were created for something more…. so much more.
And I promise you will not find it in anything else but IN the One who created you for a worthy cause.

Job 10:8-
Your hands have made me and fashioned me..

Let the One who actually made you and fashioned your very own body hold you today. No matter the choices, no matter the mistakes, no matter the scars..He hears your crys and sees your tears and He is the God of Second, third, fourth…. chances!

He can make you whole again.
He can make you clean again.
Why?
Because He wants to.

“Come now, and let us reason together,” Says the Lord ,
“Though your sins are like scarlet, They shall be as white as snow; Though they are red like crimson, They shall be as wool.
~Isaiah 1:18

Related Articles:
Quit letting him pimp you

Quotes that might leave you speechless. *Pt.1*

” Dating with no intention of marriage, is like clothes shopping……
“…

Women-Fight for them..or use them?

When we decided that a woman was not a worthy thing to fight for, we began using them.

And if you could hear a woman’s hearts cry..I think it would sound a little or maybe a lot like this: …..

“I don’t want to be used, I want to be loved…oh so loved”.

“Am I beautiful enough, good enough?.. To be fought for, to be waited for, to be treated right?!”

“I’m tired of having to give myself away just to feel love…that at the end isn’t even real”.

“I’m lonely.”
-“I’m ugly.”
-“I’m not enough.”
-“I’m all used up.”
-“Love doesn’t exist.?”

“Is there something more? “

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I believe every woman’s, every girls heart crys out many things.
Sometimes…if I look deep into her eyes I think I can even hear it.. if I look deeply enough. As I pass her by on my out of the mall.
As I see her getting her hair done at the salon.
As I wait at the stop light, and she sits in the car right beside me.
As I drive by while she walks home from school.
As she takes my order at the fast food place I’m at.
As I hand her my insurance card at the doctors office.
Etc
Etc
Etc

4 words:
FIGHT FOR US MEN!
Even if some women may laugh, sneer, or deny it. I believe we as women WANT to be cherished, loved, respected, adored, and yes fought for.
We are worthy. We need you.

Ladies:
Act like it!Give them something to fight for! How? Oh if you really want to know how.. please read more about that here. “Oh baby, give me some chivalry !!
And here–> “Do you feel worthy?”

Lots of women have screamed and yelled out “independence” and “I dont need no man”! But truly at the end it’s made them feel more alone, and bitter once they realize that even if they may “believe” they don’t, their children surely do!

God did in fact create Adam first.
God knew what He was doing. 🙂
Women…lets be ladies that show we are WORTHY!
Men…prove to us that you are REAL men by fighting for us…not using us!

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Oh baby give me some chivalry…

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First of all… What is Chivalry?

CHIVALRY-

a. The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as

bravery,

courtesy,

honor,

Also
generosity,

valor

and

gallantry toward women.
(GallantryPolite attention or respect given by men to women.)
b. A manifestation of any of these qualities.

Second of all… WOW, WOW, WOW!!
Third of all… What does it mean to be lady-like?
I know many people could have different answers. But I read an AWESOME article about being lady-like and I believe it hit it right on!!!

(I’ll share some of it but I’ll share the link so you can read the rest of it… believe me it is worth the read!)

A lady…..
understands that her appearance, behavior, and way of communicating provide others with valuable insight into her character. She knows that her true beauty is not acquired at a make-up counter, with a new outfit, or by following the latest Hollywood trend. Rather, she understands true beauty is first inward.
A lady understands that her real strength is not found in trying to be like a man, but rather, in being gracious, thoughtful, kind, intelligent, self-assured, and poised.

© Copyright 2013.*Written by Deborah King, What Would Mrs King Do?*
(And if your a Christian I would personally also add godly to that list.)

And here are some more lady-like attributes that I believe would tremendously and powerfully make some if not most men rise up and bring CHIVALRY along with them!…

☆Allow him to open your car door.
(My husband actually did this when we were dating. And no it wasn’t back in the 50’s…The year was 2003 to be exact. 🙂
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☆Allow no sexual touching or “fooling around” until that WEDDING ring is on your finger. (Make sure he’s ‘The One’ first of course!)

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☆Allow him to pay when you go out to dinner/lunch/movie/brunch/ etc.. you get the point.

☆Allow him to “Woo you”, and yes that can be done without sex.
(Remember “Ladies, if he’s not going to put you on a pedestal, don’t put yourself under him.”

☆Allow yourself to dress modestly especially when with him.

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Oh there are probably many more I could name… but how about you? Do you happen to have any suggestions?
Or do you have any ideas that could bring back some CHIVALRY?

(I also know there are probably many girls/women that have no clue on how to be lady-like….believe me I was NOT raised to be lady-like! But maybe the first step is learning to be more lady-like and than being an influence, impact and an inspiration to someone else who is looking up to you!)

Related articles: When sex is cheap

Do you feel worthy?

“If we don’t feel worthy how can we expect someone else to feel we are worth an effort”?

I believe men were made to “work”, and they truly, deeply want to and love to value us as women..so when they have to work for something, I believe it becomes that much more valuable to them. But IF we as girls/women ALLOW them to “get us” way too easily..in other words NOT truly WORK AT IT, than why do you think they “hit it and quit it”??
IF YOU GIVE THEM NOTHING TO RESPECT AND WORK FOR….guess what? THEY WON’T!!
Sadly, That Simple.

I’m sick and tired of hearing about young, precious girls(mostly teens) becoming pregnant! But that’s not even the saddest part. The fact that most of em’ ACTUALLY believed the boy really loved them/cared for them or ready for this one…was going to marry them??!!!
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And I’m sick and tired of hearing about girls/women “giving it up” and sleeping around hoping that it’ll result in them finding Mr. Right!??
*Can I please quote a young twenty-three year old guy.(These are his words, so please don’t get mad at me):

“I DON’T KNOW OF ANY GIRLS WHO DON’T ACT INSECURE. THEY ARE ALL UP ON GUYS, AND THEY SLEEP WITH ANYBODY. THEY LOOK HOT, BUT EVERYBODY SAYS STUFF ABOUT THEM LATER. THERE AREN’T ANY GIRLS OUT THERE WHO YOU WOULD WANT TO MARRY AND BE YOUR KID’S MOM. SAD.”
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Personally it sounds to me he’s looking in all the wrong places. If you want to buy flowers do you head to a car-lot? The only thing you’ll find there is cars. You can’t EXPECT to find flowers there!
So may I say if you are looking for a lady/man to marry and be the father/mother of your children…be careful where you are searching!

Ladies, If we show them we value and respect ourselves for example by telling them No sir!!..Sex don’t come easy ’round here. Than the ‘REAL’ men will usually jump mountains, swim shark infested waters just to RISE to our standard’s! And in the midst of all that…we find love..

But yes we are human and have hormones of course, and so it doesn’t come easy but just PLEASE remember men will always work for what they cherish, adore, value and respect.
Give them something to cherish, adore, value and respect….(something to work for) and the real men will!

And all the others well …..you’ll know you were too expensive and valuable for them! 🙂