“Why buy the cow……when the milk is FREE”?!…
I’m pretty sure many men have said this, thought this, figured this, laughed at this, AND have actually LIVED IT!
So what does it even mean.. Let me break it down:
Let’s just say someone gave you a pretty nice car, or maybe an ugly looking one but hey it runs and the best part? THEY GAVE IT TO YOU…FREE!! Yup, no charge. All yours. You can drive it whenever. Everyday. All day.
Now let me ask you……..
Would you pay for the car even if they gave it to you for..free?
Would you work to save up for the car? OF COURSE NOT! It’s already yours.
There’s NO need to work for it….since its already all yours.
Than Ladies why do you give yourself away for free and than expect a man to marry you.
Ladies, why do give it up after knowing him for a day? week? A month? Before marriage?
Than become upset when he no longer works to win your heart.
Why would he have to when the “milk” is free.
Ladies, why would you dress half-naked or with skin tight clothes than cry about it later when you find out all he really wanted from you was only what you were “advertising”?
God made women beautiful, delicate, sweet, valuable, worthy. It doesn’t matter if a “man” tells you otherwise. But we gotta keep ourselves expensive!! And by expensive I mean…..
No sex mister till you can PROVE that your a ONE WOMEN MAN! (And honestly for me that proof comes when he can put that ring on your finger and say ‘I DO’). And a good man will WANT to prove it to you more easily if:
(Now you may not agree BUT I speak with experience…)
No intimate touch….till your wedding night.
(For me that included: no kissing, no hugging, and of course no lovemaking..;)
Ladies can complain that most men are just dogs that want one thing but if women are giving it to them …practically for free or very very cheap then why would they want to buy the cow(marriage) or (faithful commitment), if the milk is FREE??
Now I salute all you men and Christan men that don’t allow yourselves to try the “milk” until you have paid for the whole thing….!!
Because that is where true love lies dear ladies and gentlemen…
Ladies: Allowing and declaring that men prove their love to you.
And no not by buying you a stuffed animal or a nice card. I’m talkin’ REAL, TRUE, UNFAILING LOVE! A trustworthy love.
A love that puts you before their own “needs” and lusts. A self-less love.
A love that wants to protect. Your virtue. Your body. Your HEART.
A LOVE that knows Who created it in the first place and realizes that they wouldn’t dare mess with something so fragile, so beautiful, and delicate!
“ Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.
-1 Corinthians 13 (MSG)
I’m so thankful that my husband and I both wanted to wait till our wedding night.
We both wanted to try it God’s way.
We both in the past had tried it “our” way(the world’s way).
Some could say having sex WITHOUT commitment can be fun BUT is it really fun when you wake up to find out he only wanted you for your FREE “milk”??
Or when you hear that he’s already went through 5 girls since dumping you?
See if you choose to save yourself till marriage(REALcommitment) yeah there’s a chance you still might get hurt.
And if you choose to save yourself your boyfriend might decide to leave.
But I just believe the risk is worth it.
I mean your risking it either way if you choose to just give out FREE “test drives” anyways.
Risk saying No when he’s calling you or smooching all over you.
Risk saying No by not putting yourself in situations where it might be tempting to say yes, and give in.
For me my relationship with God is pretty much the main conviction I had that sustained me.
I am now going on 12 years of marriage and one of the best parts of the whole thing is I am now able to share this victory with my son and daughter!
Now I know many hearts may have already given in but don’t lose hope. Get back up and the more you draw near to your Maker and Creator the easier it will become. Because you’ll realize that God doesn’t say ‘Wait’ because He’s a mean God just waiting to strike us.
But that He loves us too much to NOT warn us and protect us.
Your sexual desires were meant to attract and bind you to your spouse. So if your married use that power girl!