*I Read this today on the Dr. Laura Blog.
And well…couldn’t have said it much better…
Why Shacking Up Is Not All It’s Cracked Up to Be
These are just some of the very good statements from it… you can read it in its entirety on the link above!
★Couples who shack up before marriage are more likely to divorce, experience domestic violence, have sexual and emotional problems, and be involved in affairs. Yet, regardless of the statistics, people continue to do it.
★The myth couples use to justify shacking up is that by living together before marriage, they can “test drive the car” and have a more satisfying and longer-lasting marriage. But it’s just the opposite. People shack up because they are skittish about commitment and, therefore, more likely to call it quits when problems arise.
★Quite frankly, if you shack up, you are basically saying that your future marriage isn’t valuable enough to be worth waiting and making tough sacrifices for.
★Finally (and most importantly), shacking up hurts kids. If (and usually when) a woman gets pregnant in a shack-up situation, there is a high probability that the sperm donor will split within two years, which results in a never-married-single-mom raising a fatherless child. A guy who is screwing a woman without laying down his life for her doesn’t want to be a dad – he’s just getting off.
In my opinion, the best way to test your compatibility for marriage and reduce your chances of divorce to almost nothing is:
1) Don’t have sex until you’re married.
2) Date for at least one year before you get engaged.
3) Participate in a structured premarital counseling program which includes psychological testing.
However, I know most of you are not going to do that. So, operate at your own risk – or rather, the risk of your kids.
On a personal note: How about trying the No Sex Challenge?